Find pleasure in the ordinary rather than chasing the extraordinary
You can choose to focus on the stimuli and sensations you are experiencing instead of trying to chase down pleasure. It is a bit like baking a cake. The cake will not be great if you tell yourself it will be so. Instead, you need to focus on using the right ingredients. You must combine the things you appreciate and mix them in a specific order and the right amount. Then your cake will be amazing to you.
If your focus remains on the process rather than the outcome, you are much more likely to achieve successful sexual pleasure.
Pleasure thrives on variety