THE GRIEF, LONGING, LOSS AND SHAME
A dark title for this corner of the website – but it is what we so often are told.
The processing works in phases. Do not expect to see the big picture from the start. Give yourself time and room to get to terms with your new situation and the fact that you will have ups and downs.
The heartfelt grief of not being able to do what others do.
The wish to be carefree and like everybody else just talks about insubstantial difficulties related to the sex life.
The agonizing irritation when friends talk about sexual conquests, and the self-loathing when it’s not possible to feel joy on their behalf.
It is natural and understandable to feel this – and every other thing you might feel – even though it feels neither nice nor comfortable.