Lubrication naturally occurs when you get aroused. It helps the friction to be smooth and painless for your skin and tissue. Sometimes, you might get aroused, but there isn’t quite enough lubrication. Irritation might be felt immediately or after sex. Inadequate lubrication can even cause pain or bleeding.

Is Your skin

  • Super sensitive? Skin issues like psoriasis, eczema, and lichen sclerosis will cause fragile, sensitive skin.  Sometimes, there’s no underlying issue, you merely just have sensitive skin.
  • Lacking something?  Your skin needs the right environment and the right ingredients to stay healthy.  Maybe you have low estrogen levels resulting in dryness in your tissues. Perhaps you lack essential vitamins, fats or other to keep tissues flexible and stretchy.
  • Immobile? If your tissue in the vagina has been broken, scar tissue can lower mobility causing pain or discomfort during penetrative sex. 

lack of Lubrication

  • Levels of hormones have changed (could be due to the pill)
  • You suffer from an infection affecting your lubrication abilities.  Bacterial vaginosis and yeast infections can cause lubrication problems, blocked glands
  • You are not being sufficiently aroused.  Maybe your thoughts wander
  • You are frightened that sex might hurt
  • You have scar tissue hurting you, and thereby lowering lubrication
  • Medications – such as medicine against allergy
  • You are affected by irritants or allergenic ingredients from perfume or chemicals

This was not a complete list. Doctors can help you discover what causes your lubrication problems


Dryness at the entrance of the vagina

You may feel like your skin is burning, stinging, itching or just plain hurts. You might also experience that the skin tears or breaks easily.

The skin at the entrance of the vagina is a bit different from the tissue further up inside. The nature of the outer tissue is more like the skin in the vestibular area (the vulva, around the vaginal entrance).

Dryness inside the vagina

It feels like the vagina is dry and may feel a bit like sandpaper if you try inserting anything. You might even just experience dryness in a certain spot.


It may seem strange to tell a doctor that you are experiencing vaginal dryness, because you may think it will seem like a minor nuisance.  

But you have got to tell, because it may be  something the doctor can help you fix. Just ignoring your symptoms will not make them go away. It might even affect the way you use your pelvic muscles. If you start continually tensing your muscles because of discomfort, that will inhibit blood flow, which then can lead to tight muscles and muscle knots.

Tell the doctor if it hurts during or after sex, and make sure to tell them if you are bothered by daily activities such as riding a bike, walking, or drying yourself after going to the toilet. Tell when and where it hurts, whether it is at the entrance, in the middle, or the bottom of the vagina. Explain how it hurts (stinging, sharp, itching) and for how long it hurts when it happens.  Mention if you experience skin tears or breaks.  

Maybe create your vulva & vagina profile and bring it along. Sometimes, you have to spill it all out, for the doctor to know that this is something you need and want to focus on. 


Since your dryness can be a side effect of another issue, we only suggest relieving your symptoms. The actual treatment you will find with your doctor.

A silicone-based lubricant 

The lubricant alone will not make you feel aroused, but it will coat the wall of the vagina, so it doesn’t get irritated. The silicone lubricant consists of molecules too big to be absorbed into the body. The lubricant will leave your body with your normal discharge. The vagina has quite a quick turnover time in regards to renewing cells – which is why you have the discharge. It is the vagina’s smart way of cleaning itself. (Props & Pearls recommends).

If you are super sensitive – test a bit on some skin to see how you react. The inside of the forearms near the elbow and the inside of the upper thigh are good places. 

Use a vibrator

“Good sex.” from a physiological standpoint, is the kind of sex that is good for the lubricating wall and does not wear and tear at the vaginal wall, all the while stimulating blood flow in the surrounding tissues.  “Bad sex” wears away at the lubricant, causing troublesome friction and irritation. You don’t necessarily need someone else to get your blood flowing! Doing it with a gently vibrating vibrator is beneficial to the tissue and can help facilitate natural lubrication. Place vibrator on the top of the mons pubis and the outer and inner side of the outer lips at first and then slowly move closer to the vagina. (Props & Pearls recommends).

Only have sex when you are ready and are in the mood. Otherwise, it could lead to more discomfort and pain.

Use a balm or a barrier cream

You can use a balm or a barrier cream to protect the vulva skin from everyday friction. Balm or barrier creams can act as a screen to keep skins moisture level. (Props & Pearls recommends)

Use a vaginal moisturizer

The doctor might prescribe you hormone creams.  If you can’t tolerate hormones or you don’t like using them, you can use hormone-free moisturizers meant for the vagina. They will support the health of the mucosa (Props & Pearls recommends).


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