20% of the women, who have answered our questionnaire. “When Love Hurts“, do not have a diagnosis for why they have discomfort or pain – whether in the abdomen, pelvic or genital area.

It can be frustrating to live with pain and discomfort not knowing what is wrong, or when the situation will improve. Many report that, when they first realize something is different, they assume it will eventually just pass. Some try to contact their doctor, while others avoid this, either because they are embarrassed or because they fear it will be a painful experience.

It is not always a straightforward task to go to the doctor and get a diagnosis. Issues and disorders in the abdomen and pelvic area may be difficult to understand, even for the professionals.

This is partly due to the fact, that practitioners at times encounter relatively few patients with these specific conditions. Another reason is that the medical science behind many of these issues has not been completely explored and thus the causes are not fully understood.

If a doctor is not familiar with a particular disorder, they may not  be asking the right questions. Therefore, if your general practitioner cannot diagnose you, a gyneacologist or a dermatologist may be the next step. If you experience muscle pain you may contact a pelvic obstetric gynecological physiotherapist, to check your muscular challenged. 

You can also familiarize yourself with rarer conditions and issues through research in order to provide suggestions to your doctor. Read Seeing the Doctor and Tracing My Pain 



Not everyone is fortunate enough to get a definitive diagnosis. Medical science is not comprehensive.  There are still areas that need to be understood and questions that need to be answered.

New knowledge is constantly required as cutting-edge research sheds light on the previously unknown. Unfortunately, your condition may be the result of a disease that is yet to be identified.

It can be very difficult to live with pain, when the cause is undiagnosed. It produces a surprising level of mental comfort to be able to attribute your pain to a specific issue. Without a diagnosis, it is more difficult to seek out information, learn from experiences with treatment and recovery, and to get advise on how to manage. 

We recommend that while you wait for the right diagnosis, you focus your attention on what you can do right now to aid your body – whether it be relaxation techniques, muscle reprogramming or lifestyle changes. Find inspiration on this website.

Remember, some problems are hereditary. Ask your mother or your grandmothers, if they are familiar with the symptoms you are experiencing.

Read Tracing My Pain, Dealing With Pain, Self Help