Breathing is automatic
You breathe, on average, and without giving it a thought, between 10 and 20 times per minute in resting mode. Could you imagine if you had to remind yourself to breathe? You wouldn’t be able to think about anything else.
How we breathe
A muscle, the diaphragm, is placed underneath the lungs, where the lower ribs meet. When the muscle contracts, it pulls down on the lungs, which get bigger, sucking in air. When the diaphragm relaxes, the lungs shrink back, and the air is pushed out.
Picture it behind the solar plexus and how, when you breathe in, the diaphragm is lowered and pushes down on your intestines, which then press down on your pelvic floor. The inner pressure may affect more than just your lungs. Use a deep breath to feel your body. How does your chest and abdomen act as you breathe? Are you holding back or letting go? Do your shoulders lift? If they do, be conscious that it is the belly and ribs that should expand during inhalation.
THE DEEP BREATH
Breathe in deeply, so the entire diameter of the stomach is extended equally – i.e. both navel and ribs go out, but the sternum does not move. Feel how your body opens down into the pelvic floor when you inhale through the nose. When you breathe out, relax and let the air out either through your mouth or your nose and concentrate on relaxed jaws.
Time: It takes about 3-4 seconds to breathe in – hold it a second – and exhale. Exhaling takes a little longer, about 5 seconds. Hold for a second, pausing before repeating the exercise. Take three deep breaths. Try with exhaling through the mouth and the nose. What suits you the best?
Maybe those deep breaths can be used during intercourse. Imagine the cervix move slowly, rhythmically and obliging – a little like a jellyfish moving under water. Imagine the cervix pulsing in the vagina.
THE SHORTENED BREATHING
In times of stress, the body may shorten the length of your breath, not allowing your lungs to fill as much as they can. It is an unconscious process you don’t necessarily tell your body to start doing.
Short respirations means that the diaphragm does not lower as much as with standard breaths. Therefore the organs below don’t get affected as normally done. Since your lungs do not fill as much as usual, you do not bring in or disperse the reasonable amount of oxygen the body wants and needs.
Deep conscious breathing can get the diaphragm to contract more tightly and the lungs to expand even more than in a typical breath. The bigger the movement, the more air comes in, which means more oxygen can get in and get to the rest of your body and get rid of waste.
By sticking to the deep breathing method, you may be able to train your everyday, unconscious breathing to be a little deeper and thereby increase the length of your respiration. Maybe you will end up doing fewer breaths per minute. If you are stressed you might do 15-20 breaths a minute; if you calm down, you might do as little as 5-10 breaths a minute.
The soothing effect of breathing
Calm breathing can have a soothing effect, almost of a meditative quality.
When working on your breathing, you will focus on one of the most fundamental elements of life functions: to get oxygen to your body and carbon to leave. Get energy into the body and get rid of unusable leftovers.
Correlation between nerves and respiration
When someone is panicking, people will advise him or her to “Breathe” to make them calm down.
By consciously breathing, we increase the rate of fundamental processes in our body, but we also just focus on one particular thing, and for a moment we put everything else aside.
You can calm your nerves by concentrating on your breathing. Remove your focus from whatever is rattling your nerves and create peace inside yourself by focusing on quietly breathing in and breathing out.
Take advantage of your lazy brain
You can create a link between your controlled breathing and the relaxation of your muscles. By teaching your body how to react in certain situations, you can make a connection between an action and what the body response should be.