Find pleasure in the ordinary rather than chasing the extraordinary
You can choose to focus on the stimuli and sensations you are experiencing instead of trying to chase down pleasure. It is a bit like baking a cake. The cake will not be great if you tell yourself it will be so. Instead, you need to focus on using the right ingredients. You must combine the things you appreciate and mix them in a specific order and the right amount. Then your cake will be amazing to you.
If your focus remains on the process rather than the outcome, you are much more likely to achieve successful sexual pleasure.
Pleasure thrives on variety
Even the best song may become boring if it is heard repeatedly. The same goes for sexual pleasure. It does not mean that your partner must be replaced! Instead, the variation may be in the stimulation of the senses: fragrance, clothing, surroundings, your language to each other, the music, the sequence of touch, etc.
Train yourself to appreciate different stimuli and sensations. An excellent way to start is to find everyday things that bring you enjoyment.
AMPLIFY THE DAILY JOY
Focus on what makes you feel good. Appreciate how you are affected by certain things and express it to your friends, family and partner. Some enjoy noting daily what pleases them to support and cultivate their attention.
DOES SOCIAL INTERACTION MAKE YOU HAPPY?
Are you a social person who enjoys the company of people?